QUESTION: When I moved in with my partner in my late 40s, I was drawn to his loving personality and the fact we had many shared interests. But I was never truly sexually attracted to him. Eight years on, I have no desire to have sex. He’s upset and baffled, but I don’t know how to remedy the situation. Help!
by Erica Jagger
(The following was sampled from The Huffington Post.)
I was tortured by sex when I was a young woman.
I went from being an awkward, skinny bookworm to a curvy 16-year-old almost overnight. I wasn’t used to attracting male attention and I felt simultaneously powerful and powerless.
Powerful because, after years of feeling invisible, I was suddenly a siren. It was intoxicating to be able to turn the heads of boys and men simply by walking down the street. My budding sexual charisma masked my sense of not belonging anywhere. Whenever the “you’re not good enough” harpies whispered in my ear, I could dull their voices by amping up my charm.
But really, I felt powerless. I felt ashamed of my sexual urges, ashamed of attracting attention, and ashamed of the fact that my impulses propelled me into sexual encounters for which I wasn’t emotionally prepared, and which gave me the false impression that my sex appeal was the only thing about me of any value. I grew up in a home where no one talked about sex, so I had nowhere to go for guidance. Continue reading 11 Things That Will Dramatically Improve Your Sex Life In Middle Age
Have Satisfying Sex at Any Age
When you hear the words “sex ed,” you probably think of teaching children about the birds and the bees. But women’s health experts say that there’s a lot that you can still learn about your sexual health, whether you’ve been part of a committed couple for decades, are single, divorced, or dating. Myths about things such as desire and orgasms can linger from your younger years, and new issues can crop up as you or your partner enter menopause or contend with other health concerns. One of the biggest misconceptions: Age will sour your sex life. “Many women in midlife say the quality of sex is better than ever because they know themselves and what pleases them, and they feel an intimacy and connection with their partner that’s unique to this stage of life,” says Barb DePree, MD, director of Women’s Midlife Services at Holland Hospital, in Holland, Michigan, and founder of middlesexmd.com. Beyond that, here are common sex myths that doctors hear all the time — and the truth about how to have a satisfying sex life at any age or stage. Continue reading Midlife Sex Myths That Sabotage Your Love Life