Recently, a 51-year-old widower named Guy friended me on Facebook and sent me this message about his midlife sexual re-awakening. I was so moved by the tenderness of his story that I asked him if I could reprint it verbatim here. Luckily, he said yes.
I’m a 51-year-old only parent to 11 and 14-year-old girls. I lost my wife to a 3-year battle against breast cancer in early 2014. Of course the number one priority has been raising the children. As far as finding a feminine connection, I was unsure and just plain scared. While my wife was sick intimate contact did not happen. My confidence in being able to attract another love was shaky, to say the least. I thought that the sexual side of my life may have been a thing that had passed. Continue reading A Midlife Man Talks About Finding Love and Great Sex After 50
By Rowan Pelling for the Daily Mail
QUESTION: When I moved in with my partner in my late 40s, I was drawn to his loving personality and the fact we had many shared interests. But I was never truly sexually attracted to him. Eight years on, I have no desire to have sex. He’s upset and baffled, but I don’t know how to remedy the situation. Help!
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by Erica Jagger
(The following was sampled from The Huffington Post.)
I was tortured by sex when I was a young woman.
I went from being an awkward, skinny bookworm to a curvy 16-year-old almost overnight. I wasn’t used to attracting male attention and I felt simultaneously powerful and powerless.
Powerful because, after years of feeling invisible, I was suddenly a siren. It was intoxicating to be able to turn the heads of boys and men simply by walking down the street. My budding sexual charisma masked my sense of not belonging anywhere. Whenever the “you’re not good enough” harpies whispered in my ear, I could dull their voices by amping up my charm.
But really, I felt powerless. I felt ashamed of my sexual urges, ashamed of attracting attention, and ashamed of the fact that my impulses propelled me into sexual encounters for which I wasn’t emotionally prepared, and which gave me the false impression that my sex appeal was the only thing about me of any value. I grew up in a home where no one talked about sex, so I had nowhere to go for guidance. Continue reading 11 Things That Will Dramatically Improve Your Sex Life In Middle Age